Biology of Boundaries: Why Saying No Is a Nervous System Skill
“Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re calibration tools.” We often think of boundaries as something cognitive. A decision. A declaration. But your ability to say no—and mean it—isn’t just a mindset. It’s a nervous system skill. In clinical practice, I’ve seen it again and again: people who overextend, over-accommodate, or freeze when asked to make space for … Read more